3 Things to Avoid Before, During and After a Divorce in Denver Colorado

 

Dealing with Divorce is neither easy nor fun to do. But how should you mitigate the pain before, during and after a Divorce if children are involved? Here is some Divorce advice from a recently Divorced family from Denver, Colorado. 

 

1) Not telling your children what is going on.

Not telling your children what is going on is probably the biggest mistake parents going through a divorce can make. Your kids are going to find out about your divorce case regardless you tell them or not, so why not take the time and effort to communicate with them in the best possible way about what is going on. Try not to point fingers at each other when explaining the children what’s going on.

Below are actual statements from the children:

 

“They didn't really explain that much to me, I just stopped seeing

my dad a lot, and I had to go to a special place to visit him, and it

was pretty weird, everything in my life changed, my grades dropped

significantly, and I used to get mad at people more easily getting into

more arguments.” – Alex (Denver, Colorado)

 

"I didn't know it was coming at all." – Sabrina.

 

"When my parents first got divorce I really was confused I didn't know

what a divorce was." – Nick (Denver, Colorado)

 

2) Arguing in front of the children.

Parents arguing in front of their children is a lose-lose situation. Remember, children usually love both parents, and fighting may not only cause emotional damage, but have psychological implications to child, as well. Even if you feel you have the right to argue, it is best to try to avoid confrontation, and discuss the matter privately with your partner.

Below are actual statements from the children:

 

"They would trash talk each other basically, like talk bad, my whole dad's side of the family and my whole mom side of the family, and I get pissed off, because I didn't want  to hear it" - Nick. (Denver, Colorado)

 

“At some point I didn't know who to believe, because one was telling

some story and someone else was telling another story." – Sabrina. (Denver, Colorado)

 

3) Struggling to co-parent fighting with each other.

A lot of families continue to struggle after divorce. The fights continue, and the children keep getting hurt. Co-parenting is not easy, but every divorced couple should try to make an effort to continue a respectable relationship to maintain the best interest of the child in mind.

"I saw my dad fell asleep with a cigarette in his mouth. I called my mom and told her about it, and then the next morning my dad came out to me and threw his cell phone at me, my dad said: “Why you have to snitch?””. – Nick (Denver, Colorado)

 

“My biggest regret would be of how this divorce hurt my children; I don't feel that children should ever have to suffer because of what two adults decide to do.” – Denver Divorced Mom.

If you or a loved one facing Divorce in Denver Colorado, contact Jim at the Neighborhood Law Office P.C. (303) 578-1214.

Neighborhood Law Office also serves the city of Pueblo in Colorado.